Wedding bells or single again?

Its true that we always dream of that special someone in our lives who would protect ,love,care for us just like as its shown in the movies(reel life) where a hero always protects the heroine from all evil and there is always a happy ending in the end .

No !!! No!! There is nothing wrong in dreaming that way !! Good dreams always take you to the fantasy world which keeps you ecstatic. I am not against dreaming , but what if ,our life turns out to be something which we have never ever dreamt of?

I was horrified to realize that one of my closest friend had been through the same phase and it really touched me to know ,how much she tried to make the relationship work and when it didn't ,even after all her efforts ,how she embraced the failure with all her heart and moved on!!!

I choose to write about this topic to simply appeal to all the people, that it is absolutely OK to make a wrong move and fall in love with some one who is not worth you.But its not OK to accept the fact that he /she is not worth your love and succumb to the agony that life gives you because of that ,one wrong move.

My friend !! Ah !!  I remember the time when we used to discuss about all the interesting girl topics and we never used to get tired of discussing about them. I have always seen her as  a very confident, beautiful and a strong lady . She anyway was good at her academics and was a good sports person too.. Men used to really go ga-ga for her .
But ,I had seen an entirely different person when I met her last time(few months back) .She had completely changed to a timid,worried and an unhappy woman. Our topics of discussion were sort of counseling sessions and it really hurt me to know that she was not happy .I felt she really had lost a part of herself and her confidence too. I also appreciated the fact, that she was really trying hard to make her relationship work.

A lady ,who was once strong and confident  seemed to be a puppet, bullied and owned by some one. A lady who never had a second thought in expressing her mind needed reassurance on the dress ,she was wearing. I was confused and taken aback.

It was definitely a matter of worry for me to know that she's got hooked up with the wrong person.
I kind of got an idea about it , when she was chased every 15 mins to find out what she is doing?where she is going (knowing the fact that she is with me ,How insecure can some one get?),what took you so long to receive my calls??etc etc

I was sadly a witness of one such relationship where "love" is used to control ,bully and satisfy one's negative ego .. Love is a beautiful feeling which everyone does experience in their lifetime but when that "Love" hurts you or commands you to be some one you are not,then its time we realize that there is no point in being someone that we are not.

"Love doesn't mean that you sacrifice what you are and who you are !! It means to be loved by some one, the way you are  ,to see you happy,to be ready to do anything to keep you happy and  that's all matters for a healthy relationship and Vice versa..
 At the back of mind ,I always wanted my friend to move on and to my surprise ,she calls me after several months only to know the fact  that she was the same confident and strong lady whom I earlier knew in college.
I found a lost friend and I wish I will never lose her again!!

My personal view on this is ,if you don't get the hero you want in your life ,you become one !!!
Its not necessary, that you need  a partner to keep you happy . Happiness is a choice that one needs to make everyday .

Love life and celebrate every moment of  it!!