What do children need from us ? Is our parenting technique right? Can we do anything better to improve ourselves in this aspect ? Here are few pointers which may help the parents as well as the to-be parents in many ways.
In this mechanical world where both husbands and wives are working mostly ,it becomes really difficult to spend quality time with our kids and this leads to guilt parenting .This happens with many of us .We try to compensate with the materialistic things or food (mostly junk) which of course is not good for children.1-5 years is considered to be the most crucial period for the child's physical and mental development.Avoid packaged food or drink.Its very harmful for your child's development.
I am sure ,its hard for every parent to spend a large amount of time as most of us are working .But, all it takes is 30 precious minutes from your daily routine to spend with the kid (without the outer world connections like Cell phone ,Laptop,tabs etc). Just the kid and you and that's going to give the kid a lot of confidence and the feeling of being loved.
I know most of the mothers would have a question mark on their faces now. They would be thinking,they anyway manage everything from top to bottom as far as their kids ,home or anything else is concerned.Where the hell would we get some personal time with our kid?Isn't it ladies ?
I know where you are coming from? But,the solution for this is ,stop having the knowing it all attitude and Stop trying to convey yourself saying I need to do it all .You are not a R.O.B.O.T.
Share the responsibilities with your husband.Give the husbands a chance to share the main stage with the kid . If the husband doesn't want to share any responsibility ,then it turns in to a different story but if he does.It has two advantages .One being ,you would get some personal time for yourself and the second being ,a strong connection would be established between the father and the baby.
A child needs mother's care ,affection ,love and hospitality and at the same time ,he would need father's confidence , risk -taking ability and of course love too.Mother and father are like ying and yang . Perfect balance of this yields to a very strong development of the child in every way.
The next important stage in every toddler's life is stepping into a school.Its a live examination for both the kid and the parents especially mothers . The most important thing which we need to keep in mind when we leave our kids to school is to have confidence and a smile on our face which most mothers don't. Panicking creates a pressure on the child too Separation anxiety will definitely be there in kids but that shouldn't be a panic creating situation for parents.Its always advisable that fathers leave their kids to school on the initial days as mothers are usually emotional.
Take the kids to the park and not malls. Fly kites with them. Involve yourself while playing with them.Avoid being on cell phones .Avoid telling them not to play in the sand or mud . Let them cut, paste, roll,color and do all that keeps them happy.These are the small little gifts you can give to your kids which are valuable than any materialistic gifts you buy them.
Never use violence to win an argument or stop the tantrum your kids play. Its very harmful as they grow.Research says any child who has undergone or seen violence concludes that its the way to win any argument .This happens especially with boys as they use violence to win any argument as they grow up and the girl child who has undergone this succumbs to the fact that they are supposed to withstand this whenever it happens . So,guys please be careful when you even think of raising your hand on your kid or even for that matter on your wife. Violence is a complete NO-NO.
Try to keep yourself happy so that you keep your little one's happy too .. Don't be hesitant to answer any of their silly or serious adult questions . This will help them gain confidence in sharing every minute details with you.
In simple terms ,we need to be friends with our kids and remain as friends as they grow up too.As parents we need to guide them ,be their well wishers but we never should be a Hitler .We should give them their own space.Let them experience different things on their own.Let them make mistakes because that's how they learn. We need to give the kids their freedom so that they enjoy their life instead of controlling them in each and every phase, as and when they grow up. Now,please don't mistake me when I say ,Freedom .Its everybody's birthright . Its always good to let kids live on their own terms.
When they go wrong its of course our duty to correct.But,that doesn't mean that we need to be strict and conservative and not let them experience anything. That doesn't too give us any guarantee that kids wont do what we ask them not to do..So,Its always better to open up ,understand the situation from their perspective and give a proper guidance.
In this mechanical world where both husbands and wives are working mostly ,it becomes really difficult to spend quality time with our kids and this leads to guilt parenting .This happens with many of us .We try to compensate with the materialistic things or food (mostly junk) which of course is not good for children.1-5 years is considered to be the most crucial period for the child's physical and mental development.Avoid packaged food or drink.Its very harmful for your child's development.
I am sure ,its hard for every parent to spend a large amount of time as most of us are working .But, all it takes is 30 precious minutes from your daily routine to spend with the kid (without the outer world connections like Cell phone ,Laptop,tabs etc). Just the kid and you and that's going to give the kid a lot of confidence and the feeling of being loved.
I know most of the mothers would have a question mark on their faces now. They would be thinking,they anyway manage everything from top to bottom as far as their kids ,home or anything else is concerned.Where the hell would we get some personal time with our kid?Isn't it ladies ?
I know where you are coming from? But,the solution for this is ,stop having the knowing it all attitude and Stop trying to convey yourself saying I need to do it all .You are not a R.O.B.O.T.
Share the responsibilities with your husband.Give the husbands a chance to share the main stage with the kid . If the husband doesn't want to share any responsibility ,then it turns in to a different story but if he does.It has two advantages .One being ,you would get some personal time for yourself and the second being ,a strong connection would be established between the father and the baby.
A child needs mother's care ,affection ,love and hospitality and at the same time ,he would need father's confidence , risk -taking ability and of course love too.Mother and father are like ying and yang . Perfect balance of this yields to a very strong development of the child in every way.
The next important stage in every toddler's life is stepping into a school.Its a live examination for both the kid and the parents especially mothers . The most important thing which we need to keep in mind when we leave our kids to school is to have confidence and a smile on our face which most mothers don't. Panicking creates a pressure on the child too Separation anxiety will definitely be there in kids but that shouldn't be a panic creating situation for parents.Its always advisable that fathers leave their kids to school on the initial days as mothers are usually emotional.
Take the kids to the park and not malls. Fly kites with them. Involve yourself while playing with them.Avoid being on cell phones .Avoid telling them not to play in the sand or mud . Let them cut, paste, roll,color and do all that keeps them happy.These are the small little gifts you can give to your kids which are valuable than any materialistic gifts you buy them.
Never use violence to win an argument or stop the tantrum your kids play. Its very harmful as they grow.Research says any child who has undergone or seen violence concludes that its the way to win any argument .This happens especially with boys as they use violence to win any argument as they grow up and the girl child who has undergone this succumbs to the fact that they are supposed to withstand this whenever it happens . So,guys please be careful when you even think of raising your hand on your kid or even for that matter on your wife. Violence is a complete NO-NO.
Try to keep yourself happy so that you keep your little one's happy too .. Don't be hesitant to answer any of their silly or serious adult questions . This will help them gain confidence in sharing every minute details with you.
In simple terms ,we need to be friends with our kids and remain as friends as they grow up too.As parents we need to guide them ,be their well wishers but we never should be a Hitler .We should give them their own space.Let them experience different things on their own.Let them make mistakes because that's how they learn. We need to give the kids their freedom so that they enjoy their life instead of controlling them in each and every phase, as and when they grow up. Now,please don't mistake me when I say ,Freedom .Its everybody's birthright . Its always good to let kids live on their own terms.
When they go wrong its of course our duty to correct.But,that doesn't mean that we need to be strict and conservative and not let them experience anything. That doesn't too give us any guarantee that kids wont do what we ask them not to do..So,Its always better to open up ,understand the situation from their perspective and give a proper guidance.
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