Friday, July 11, 2014

Life in a Metro

Life is a gift given to every individual on  this earth. It's something which needs to be celebrated each and every moment . The memories and the experiences we get out of life is something which needs to be cherished for a life time.
But ,are we leading our life to the fullest?Are we happy,leading a robotic life?

Life especially in a Metro is so mechanical . Everybody are busy in their own world.People have or rather forced to cocoon themselves in their artificial shelves .
There used to be a time when people seemed to be really happy,satisfied and contented with whatever little things they had.People were close to nature.They used to share and care for each other.
Children those days were free.They used to play in the mud and field,Fly kites,swim in the lake ,play in the rain .They never needed toys to keep them happy unlike today's generation. Nature in itself were children's toys.
But, these days,in the name of safeguarding children,we restrict our kids to so many things.Children are just expected to run a circular Marathon where in they are  just expected to go to school , come back home .

Adults are no different .They too are running a Marathon for their livelihood.
People are selfish these days or rather they have no choice.When people are busy thinking about themselves and slogging their backside off to run the family,Where would they find time for others?
How would they share with others ,when things are not sufficient for themselves ?How would they care for others when there is no one to care for their family besides them?

People are forced to compete with each other.Its all about the survival of the fittest and people are fighting against each other to win the race.Humanity is disappearing amongst all.Its all about what's in it for me ?Life has become a profit and loss ledger book for most of us and we have forgotten to have fun and live our life to the fullest .


How do we overcome these? Is this all we can do out of our life? If the same chaotic run continues,do we expect that there would be any value for emotions,love and care ? Would we be able to create any value for the society when we cant find time for ourselves and our families?

Life is almost turning in to a tornado where everybody is seemingly getting pulled in it without any way out.
Is there any end to it ?
Time has to answer.

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Toddler behaviour

What do children need from us ? Is our parenting technique right? Can we do anything better to improve ourselves in this aspect ? Here are few pointers which may help the parents as well as the to-be parents in many ways.

 In this mechanical world where both husbands and wives are  working mostly ,it becomes really difficult to spend quality time with our kids and this leads to guilt parenting .This happens with many of us .We try to compensate with the materialistic things or food (mostly junk) which of course is not good for children.1-5 years is considered to be the most crucial period for the child's physical and mental development.Avoid packaged food or drink.Its very harmful for your child's development.

I am sure ,its hard for every parent to spend a large amount of time as most of us are working .But, all it takes is 30 precious minutes from your daily routine to spend with the kid (without the outer world connections like Cell phone ,Laptop,tabs etc). Just the kid and you and that's going to give the kid a lot of confidence and the feeling of being loved.

I know most of the mothers would have a question mark on their faces now. They would be thinking,they anyway manage everything from top to bottom as far as their kids ,home or anything else is concerned.Where the hell would we get some personal time with our kid?Isn't it ladies ?
I know where you are coming from? But,the solution for this is  ,stop having the knowing it all attitude and Stop trying to convey yourself saying I need to do it all .You are not a R.O.B.O.T.
Share the responsibilities with your husband.Give the husbands a chance to share the main stage with the kid . If the husband doesn't want to share any responsibility ,then it turns in to a different story but if he does.It has two advantages .One being ,you would get some personal time for yourself and the second being ,a strong connection would be established between the father and the baby.

A child needs mother's care ,affection ,love and hospitality and at the same time ,he would need father's confidence , risk -taking ability and of course love too.Mother and father are like ying and yang . Perfect balance of this yields to a very strong development of the child in every way.

The next important stage in every toddler's life is stepping into a school.Its a live examination for both the kid and the parents especially mothers . The most important thing which we need to keep in mind when we leave our kids to school is to have confidence and a smile on our face which most mothers don't. Panicking creates a pressure on the child too Separation anxiety will definitely be there in kids but that shouldn't be a panic creating situation for parents.Its always advisable that fathers leave their kids to school on the initial days as mothers are usually emotional.

Take the kids to the park and not malls. Fly kites with them. Involve yourself while playing with them.Avoid being on cell phones .Avoid telling them not to play in the sand or mud . Let them cut, paste, roll,color and do all that keeps them happy.These are the small little gifts you can give to your kids which are valuable than any materialistic gifts you buy them.

Never use violence to win an argument or stop the tantrum your kids play. Its very harmful as they grow.Research says any child who has undergone  or seen violence  concludes that its the way to win any argument .This happens especially with boys as they use violence to win any argument  as they grow up and  the girl child who has undergone this succumbs to the fact that they are supposed to withstand this whenever it happens . So,guys please be careful when you even think of raising your hand on your kid or even for that matter on your wife. Violence is a complete NO-NO.

Try to keep yourself happy so that you keep your little one's happy too .. Don't be hesitant to answer any of their silly or serious  adult questions . This will help them gain confidence in sharing every minute details with you.

In simple terms ,we need to be friends with our kids and remain as friends as they grow up too.As parents we need to guide them ,be their well wishers but we never should be a Hitler .We should give them their own space.Let them experience different things on their own.Let them make mistakes because that's how they learn. We need to give the kids their freedom so that they enjoy their life instead of controlling them in each and every phase, as and when they grow up. Now,please don't mistake me when I say ,Freedom .Its everybody's birthright . Its always good to let kids live on their own terms.
When they go wrong its of course our duty to correct.But,that doesn't mean that we need to be strict and conservative and not let them experience anything. That doesn't too give us any guarantee that kids wont do what we ask them not to do..So,Its always better to open up ,understand the situation from their perspective and give a proper guidance.



Friday, May 30, 2014

Motherhood-The feeling of being complete

I am sure almost every lady would agree with me on the above phrase. Motherhood is the best thing that could happen to any women in this world. The word "mother" in itself carries a very heavenly feeling.

It is very rewarding to have a purpose other than yourself. The feeling you get when you become a mom for the first time is so special for any lady.Any women forgets all the pain she goes through during her delivery as soon as she just gets to see a glimpse of her child .The pain is never a pain after that .It remains a pleasure after you get to hold your child in your arms. Feel his breath ,Touch his small little fingers. Feel him so close ,embraced in your arms .You feel ,you are complete as soon as the little one holds your fingers tight with his tiny small cute fingers. It is such a heavenly feeling to have  someone in your life whom you love and care so much other than yourself. You feel your worth on this earth is doubled or quadrupled.

It is such a nice feeling to see your kid grow .Its Such a proud feeling when your kid calls you "mom" for the first time . A feeling of awesomeness, A feeling of oneness as any lady would have shared her personal space for her child and feel it growing inside her womb.The pleasure you get when you feed your child for the first time . Could  this feeling  be replaced by any materialistic pleasure for any mother?
I surely don't think so.

Effort never remains effort after that.Every mother enjoys every small little thing which she does for her child .She doesn't get her own personal time.She physically would be no more beautiful as she was before. Her personal-self would be completely lost .But,still she never complains as she finds her happiness in her kids happiness.This experience is something which any women wont and cant  erase from her memory anytime.

That's the beauty of a women .



Thursday, May 29, 2014

Is Money Evil?

We have gone through many situations wherein we have always been told by our elders that money is evil . More money takes away your peace, Rich people are bad and so on and so forth and the same opinions are even passed on to the younger generations as well.But,Are these things really true?Is Money evil?

In my opinion , Money doesn't come with a tag in itself that its evil or good . The good or bad is determined upon how we make use of that money .Wanting more money and striving hard to get it is not greed but wanting others money is greed.

Making money is not incorrect but at the same time prioritizing your needs and striving to work towards it is also as important as you need money in life .  There are five important things which we always have to give importance if we  have to really lead a peaceful ,balanced and happy life .

First, being your family , friends and health .Spend quality time with your friends and family and most importantly on yourself. Keep yourself fit and fine.

Second comes your job ,business and other related money making aspects.

Third comes you doing something you are passionate about ,which makes you feel happy . Keeping yourself happy is the coolest thing you can do for yourself and for the people around you and who are closely associated with you .

Fourth comes recreation and finally last but not the least help others as much as you can.
It may not be a big favor but small little things which you do for others really keeps you contended and satisfied .

If any of these is given the wrong priority or if it is jumbled up ,then we are sure to land up in trouble .
Making money with the right priority set is not at all wrong provided we are not troubling others or eying for  somebody else's money.

The more you give,the more you get and this is not a myth but its the fact . On a lighter note ,that doesn't mean we lend whatever we have and wait for the universe to pay our kids school fees :) ..

Money is good until we learn to make it the right way and use it the right way.




Thursday, May 22, 2014

The Indian Society

I am sure this blog is going to create a lots of chaos as I am going to write some content which may not please many of us .
I have chosen to write about women and the Injustice she faces through out her life .

We ,Indians are  really very proud of our Indian culture , tradition and its heritage .We treat them as our most powerful assets  . We assume that women especially in India  are treated with high respect and regards  but every one knows that's not the reality.

Women  have been striving for her basic rights from the time she is in her mother's womb. She fights to land herself on this earth and her fight continues until she reaches the death yard.

The great Indian society which claims to have given the respect and regards for women doesn't even give her the rights to lead her life on her own terms.
There are so many rules and conditions created to suppress her in the name of customs and traditions. Right from the time she is born ,she is forced to  follow these and denial of the same results in naming her "Modern or too forward" .

A girl child till date is considered to  be a burden and killed by few of the Indian parents.If by any chance, she gets lucky and survives,she is killed by the society with their predefined customs and traditions.

India has always been a male dominated society  and I am sure its going to remain the same, as until today ,a woman who raises her voice and fights for her right is always considered as a threat by majority of the people here.

A country can never develop if the women in the country is not respected and we have always seen instances of injustices happening towards women. As history speaks ,its women who have gone through tough practices like sati and dowry system which is still practiced in many states. The basic rights of education ,the basic rights to live is snatched away from many women.

If a women is fashionable, the society terms her forward.
If a women is assertive and demands for her rights, the society terms her dominant and aggressive.
If a women drinks and leads her life on her terms, the society calls her a whore.

Living life on their own terms is every individual's right . I completely disagree to the fact that women needs to lead their life the way, society wants her to live .Its up to a women  if she wants to showcase her marital signs or not .Its her personal choice .Its her way of living . What I feel  is ,every women should be against compulsion -The word "Should do".
No body can force someone to do something .

 Freedom is everybody's birth right .I don't think this right should be snatched away from  any women and label us "she was too modern, she deserved to be raped" ,if she forcefully demanded her right.
Enjoying life without hurting others is not wrong . The mentality of people in India needs to change . The thought process of every individual of every age (this includes women too) needs to change .As every generation has passed by ,the way, women are treated has improved but yet ,there are few male chauvinists who think their strength increases by suppressing women physically and emotionally .

India needs more feminists and this will definitely happen if all the women teach their kids to treat other women with respect .Teach , how to honor and protect them. Its all in the upbringing .I don't think there should be any bifurcation between a girl or a boy kid .Every kid should be given the same importance and significance.

What I have also learnt from my personal experience is that women needs to understand her importance, believe and fight for her  rights in every possible way she can .
There will always be people put us down and ill treat us but what we need to believe is that we are right and are fighting for our right to live.
Self -belief is the key and is the Mantra to overcome any difficulty.
Straight trees are cut first ,Likewise Weak Mindset will be targeted first .
Women needs to be strong and believe that they are equal in the eyes of God. No one can push us to do things which we don't like. There cannot be any room for compulsion.

Be free ,Be you .
Live and let live.